dating

This week we talked about dating: everyone's favorite subject at BYU-Idaho.

We learned that there are three "models" of dating.

1. Hang out, make out, drop out

2. Date 'em till you hate 'em

3. Dating and courtship

About two and a half years ago I started a relationship following model #3. A year later, when it ended and I was trying to cheer myself up, one of the things I told myself was that I knew what I was looking for in future partners and that the bar was set really high. And then for some reason, in the past year, all but one of the guys I've dated have followed either models 1 or 2. I'm not really sure why that is, but talking this week about dating and everything...really strengthened my resolve to hold out for the model #3 guys.

expectations

This week we were talking a lot about gender roles, leading up to friday when we talked about same gender attraction. 

We watched a video in class where a mother said something to the effect of, "From the time my son was three years old, I knew he was gay."

EXCUSE ME?

That is the same as saying, "From the time my son was three years old, I knew he was sexually attracted to other men."

Yeah, it's that ridiculous.

Because he showed some tendencies we equate with girls, ones that are more feminine, she expected her son to be gay. From the time he was three she treated him like he was gay, so that's how he grew up.

Think about the power that has:

If we expect something of our children from the time they are young, whether it be to be honest or get straight A's, or be a star athlete, and then treat them like that as we raise them, how more likely are they to develop desirable traits?